I have always noticed that the majority of the people I work with or have worked with in the past are outgoing, contagiously happy people. I would strive to be that way, but could never muster up to the courage ( I guess) to be outgoing.
When I was in high school I considered myself to be outgoing, but apparently I never knew exactly what that meant. Yes, I was spontaneous and adventurous. But ask me to speak in front of a room full of people or even just a small group of people, you can count me out for that.
I am realizing now that I don’t need to be like those other coworkers of mine, I can just be myself. Yes, I am quiet. Yes, I am reserved. But it doesn’t make me less of a person or a worse employee than others. I don’t express my opinion outright, it usually takes me a little bit to conjure up my thoughts in an organized way to not sound ridiculous, most of the time.
When I first started working with the physician in Colorado he told my manager I need to be more assertive, which I don’t think I ever mastered that. But when I left he kept on saying “boy have I been spoiled.” This made me come to the conclusion that I don’t need to try to be like my other coworkers. Yes, they are wonderful people who light up the room with their contagious energy and enthusiasm. But I feel like I bring something to the table as well. Not exactly sure what, but definitely something.
The same goes for my current position as well. Since day one I’ve been the quiet girl who (most days) stays in her office and is antisocial. Really, this is because I don’t want to bug anyone or get in anyone’s way. But when I told my manager/the doctor I work for they were sad that I need to leave.
I guess the point of this post is just that, just be yourself. There is literally no one in the world who is you. Don’t ever feel like you need to change who you are to either fit in to certain situations or to make someone like you more, they will like you just the way you are. Unless you’re really just an asshole, then I’m not sure. But I’m a true believer that there is good in everyone (except for Donald Trump).